You may not believe at first that you have these qualities in large amounts, but begin by assuming that you have some amount of all of them. Picture how you would act if you possessed them to a greater degree.

Courage
You need the courage to face your feelings in order to grieve. Courage is being afraid, but doing it anyway.

Patience
Accept that you will not always be strong and that grief will take time.

Resilience
The capacity to bounce back from stress and go on is something we can learn; our ability to do this increases with experience and age.

Perseverence & Endurance
Have the faith that lasting through the pain will get you through.

Capacity to Distance
It can be helpful to step back and view life from afar, see what has happened, is happening and move ahead.

Sense of Humour
Regaining your ability to smile and laugh is not a betrayal of your pain; grief is a curious mixture of many emotions. Laughter and humour may provide some necessary relief and strength for the suffering you are experiencing.

Openess to Others
Many people say that without friends and relatives to support them, they would have had far more pain and loneliness during their period of grief. Choose your confidants carefully and use them. You may be wise to choose more than one.

Messages
These are possible messages you may choose to accept to guide your approach to life from now on (or you may create your own). I will not hide my love from people I resolve to help my friends in need of support. I am strong; I can grow from pain. I intend to live my life to the fullest; my time is precious. I have learned.